How to Rediscover Your Goals and Align Them With Your True Self
Hello beautiful souls,
Goals are a powerful compass, offering direction and clarity in our lives. Yet, many of us find ourselves struggling with discipline and consistency despite our best intentions. You might feel like you've tried every system, planner, or motivational podcast, yet nothing sticks.
But here's the secret most people overlook - your goals won't drive you forward if they don’t align with your truest values. If the goals you're chasing feel out of sync with who you really are at your core, it becomes impossible to maintain lasting momentum.
This blog will guide you to shift your focus inward, explore your authentic self, and learn how to set goals filled with purpose, joy, and alignment.
1. Why We Struggle to Stay Motivated
It might sound familiar—setting goals only to lose interest a few weeks in. You wonder if discipline is the issue or if you’re just not “cut out” for healthy habits, business success, or personal consistency.
Here’s the truth behind the struggle:
Lack of Emotional Connection – Many times, the goals we set don't have a strong emotional resonance. They’re goals we feel we “should” pursue, influenced by societal expectations or external pressures.
Misaligned Values – If a goal doesn’t align deeply with your true self, it’s like planting seeds in barren soil. It will struggle to grow and bear fruit.
Wrong Methods for the Right Goals – Even when a goal is meaningful, the approach to achieving it may feel forced or unenjoyable, creating resistance instead of flow.
The foundation of lasting motivation isn’t just willpower—it’s connection. The deeper the emotional attachment to your “why,” the stronger your capacity to see it through becomes.
2. The Role of Emotional Clearing in Goal Setting
Building truly aligned goals requires peeling back the layers of expectations we’ve absorbed over time. This is where emotional clearing becomes an essential practice—it helps untangle societal “shoulds” from your personal “wants.”
What is Emotional Clearing?
It’s the process of getting honest with yourself about what truly motivates you. It challenges the limiting beliefs, judgements, and unresolved emotions that create disconnect between your inner desires and your external actions.
Think of emotional clearing as an act of rebellion against societal conditioning. It’s a sacred gift you give yourself, allowing you to:
Uncover what authentically lights you up.
Release patterns or goals that no longer serve you.
Break free from the shame of prioritizing your joy.
When you allow yourself to feel deeply and clear emotional roadblocks, you build clarity around goals that align with your truest values.
3. How to Tune Into Your True Values
Connecting with your authentic self starts with reflection. By turning inward and creating space to feel and listen, you can begin to unearth what really matters to you. Here’s how:
Ask Your Body, Not Just Your Mind
Our emotions often live in the body—tension in your chest, heaviness in your stomach, warmth in your heart. Start by asking questions like:
What emotions are present in my body right now?
What do these emotions want to tell me?
How can I feel safer in my body to explore these feelings deeply?
Your body holds wisdom. Trust the answers that arise without overthinking or judging them.
Trust What Comes Up
When emotions surface, it’s easy to dismiss them as inconvenient or unproductive. But they’re a gift—even the discomfort—pointing you toward what you value most. Be present and trust the process:
Sit with whatever arises, whether it’s clarity, confusion, or relief.
Offer gratitude to your emotions for guiding you, even if the “message” isn’t clear yet.
Celebrate What Feels Right
Pay attention to moments when you feel expansiveness, calm, or excitement. These emotional cues often signal alignment with your true values. For example:
Do you feel energized creating art or helping others?
Do you feel relief when prioritizing family time over professional obligations?
Your feelings are a compass—they’ll lead you to goals that ignite energy and joy.
4. Practical Steps to Create Aligned Goals
Once you’ve gained clarity on your deeper motivations, use these steps to create goals that work with you, not against you.
1. Identify Your “Why”
Before setting any goal, ask yourself:
Why do I want this?
What emotional reward will this offer me?
Does this goal align with my values and vision of a fulfilling life?
If the “why” behind your goal isn’t meaningful, it might be time to adjust or refine it.
2. Start Small and Connected
Break down ambitious goals into smaller, joy-filled steps. For instance:
Goal: Build a daily journaling habit.
Step: Journal for just 5 minutes daily while enjoying a warm cup of tea. Make it soothing and enjoyable.
3. Experiment With Different Approaches
You don’t have to stick to rigid methods. If traditional ways of tracking progress (e.g., habit trackers) feel uninspiring, cultivate discipline through creativity. For instance, reward yourself with an hour of painting or dancing when you meet a milestone.
4. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Every step taken in alignment with your values matters. Focus on progress, growth, and self-compassion instead of perfection.
5. Ignite Your Growth Through Self-Discovery
When goals align with your authentic self, life flows. Movement feels easier, discipline transforms into joy, and the energy you put into building habits fuels greater feelings of wellbeing.
If you're feeling called to explore this deeper (and more meaningful) way of living, a supportive space awaits. Book a discovery call with me, Kylannah, and start your self-discovery journey today. Or, join my Organize Your Life Workshop, where we’ll unravel what truly matters to you—and create a roadmap aligned with your core values.
You deserve clarity, passion, and alignment. Take that courageous step towards living authentically and thriving holistically.
Don't let unfulfilling goals hold you back from living a purposeful and authentic life. By aligning your goals with your true self and core values, you'll experience greater fulfillment and energy in all areas of your life. Take the first step towards self-discovery by booking a discovery call with Kylannah or joining the Organize Your Life Workshop. Embrace your true self and watch as your life transforms for the better.
